Addiction – An Subconscious Signal of Not Being in control
If you are substance-addicted, this might be escorted or caused by the inability to fulfill one of your deepest desires. Although subconscious than it, you may have this idea that there relx infinity is a power beyond your control that stops you from achieving your dreams, big or small. You may even admit self-defeat by maintaining the belief that it is just too difficult for you to give up old habits like smoking, drinking alcohol or eating habit forming foods.
Many smokers assert that they cannot quit smoking if they constantly see other people smoking. Others do not want to face the possibly not bearable alienation symptoms that often accompany a sudden abstinence from smoking. Quite a lot of people managed to quit smoking, but when they suddenly put on a lot of weight, they resumed the habit.
Most smokers who wish to end their addiction feel that they don’t have enough willpower to stop smoking. Why are we giving a small cigarette such great power that it is able to rule over our freedom to make conscious choices in our life? Smoking, like any other habit forming habit, is merely a sign of an underlying void or scarcity of some type. What is really missing in our lives that we continue to desire substitutes? This question is impossible to answer in this context due to a vast number of possible answers, many of which can only be known by the addict himself. But the need to smoke can become very useful in as much as it can reveal and actually overcome this inner lack, whatever it may be.
Instead of criticizing or judging yourself for giving your power to a habit that has the potential to make you ill or kill you, you can learn a great deal from it and make yourself feel complete again. Because you may not be able to understand the underlying message that smoking entails, you tend to resign yourself to the requirement that quitting the habit is a difficult and frustrating task. Yet smoking can make you aware that you are no longer completely in control of your life, and even offer you a way to reclaim that control.
The pretext “I cannot give up smoking because… ” is an subconscious recognition that am a victim of some kind, and that I am suffering from low self-worth. There is a part of me that consider weak and inadequate. A part of me is not alive and well. The act of smoking makes me admit in a way that my desire for a cigarette is greater than my desire to stay healthy or, in other words, to love myself. It is very difficult to give up smoking or other addictions for as long as I preserve this underlying weakness, probable by such exclamations as “I can’t give it up” or “I go crazy if i don’t have my cigarettes”.
Studying to Recover Your Free Will
Similar to using a thorn to grab another thorn, learning to give up the habit of smoking may be one of the most effective ways to uproot any underlying incompetence and reliance in your life. By suppressing or fighting the habitual desire to smoke, you merely feed it and with of your family efforts. This all but increases the addiction. Desires want to be fulfilled, or at least we should be able to decide whether we want to fulfill them or not. The addiction to smoking, which mirrors a lack in inner competence and completeness, can actually become a very effective method to fill you up again and regain conscious control over your life. What does that mean, you’ll ask. Smoking is not the problem you need to combat. Just seeing smoking as an addiction that may have horrible consequences is a of poor quality notion, and fighting it doesn’t raise your self-esteem. Even if you achieve quitting this habit, you still haven’t regained your inner sense of freedom and are likely to develop an addiction to something else, like eating sweets, drinking alcohol or sex. Instead of waging a war against your anxiety or poor self-confidence, all you need to do is increase that sense of inner freedom to make your own choices in life.
If understood and dealt with properly, smoking can be one of the most important things that has ever happened to you. It can cause you to adopt an entirely new way of thinking, thus reshaping your lives. If you are a smoker and wish to give up the habit, you first need to understand that your addiction is not an unintended mistake you made during one of your lower moments in life. You have created this habit not to suffer because of it, but to learn from it. It is likely to stay with you or turn into another habit forming habit until that day when you will have acquired the ability to refer all power of fulfilling your desires back to yourself. Giving up smoking is not about quitting one habit forming habit just to adopt another one; it is about recovering your sense of free will.
To use one’s willpower to fight an undesirable habit is defeating its purpose and likely to backfire because fighting something is based on the storyline that you are being bombarded or in some sort of danger. With what we know today about the powerful mind/body connection, the fear that underlies the fight against an addiction will do to keep the cells of the body jittery, anxious and dysfunctional. They can never find the peace, balance, and energy they need for being ‘happy’ cells for as long as the fear of not being in control prevails in the knowing of their master. The enzyme-based messages that cells are sending to the brain and heart are simple yowls for help. The host interprets these signals, though, as depression and nervousness. To ‘overcome’ the discomfort, at least for a few moments, the host feels motivated to grab the next cigarette or look for another drink. Each time the discomfort reemerges, he or she feels defeated and drained, thin addiction carries on.
True willpower, however, is about learning how to make conscious choices. Addictions stick like glue to everyone who wishes to overcome them. They are the ‘ghosts of memory’ who live in our subconscious and pop up every time the habit forming substance is in look or is imagined. The subsequent urge is not under conscious control, hence the feeling of ‘dying’ for a cigarette, a cup of coffee, or a bar of chocolate. It is important, though, to realize that you generally have different options. This is all you need to learn when it comes to overcoming an addiction.
You cannot successfully exorcise the ghost of memory by throwing away your using tobacco, avoiding your smoking friends, or living in a smoke-free environment. Society has condemned the act of smoking so much that many smokers already feel lacking of the sense of personal freedom they need to feel in order to make their own choices in life. If you are a sensitive person, don’t forget that a nagging spouse, a doctor, and the warning written on cigarette provides that smoking is harmful to your health may make you feel ridden with guilt. When all of this external pressure succeeds in making you give up smoking, you will continue to feel lacking of your free will and, therefore, look for other more socially acceptable forms of addiction.
Making Smoking a Conscious Choice
We all remember our childhood days when our parents told us not to eat chocolate before lunch or would not allow us to watch television when we wanted. The subconscious mind acts negatively when it is lacking of its power to make choices or when it feels forced to do something against its will. Disillusionment resulting from not being able to fulfill one’s desires can add up and lead to an inner emptiness that wants to be filled. Smoking is simply a subconscious rebellion with external manipulation of our own freedom to choose what we want, and it appears to fill that uncomfortable space within, at least for a little while. However, this inner lack can only decrease permanently when we have regained the freedom to make our own choices. You must know that you are free to smoke whenever you like and as often you like. If you have a cigarette and a match to light it, you will certainly find a way to smoke it, too.
The subconscious association of smoking, with all the other ‘don’ts’ in your past, will be negated by accepting your desire to smoke. I had my first cigarette when i entered high school at age ten. I felt like a criminal because the law said I was only allowed to smoke when i was sixteen years old. My parents were certainly strictly against smoking. Years of hiding my ‘secret’ from my parents and my teachers left me with no other choice but to continue smoking until I felt I had different options. When i finally got the legal permission to smoke, I lost interest and thought we would quit. I was able to give up the habit at once, without any alienation symptoms.
The first and most important step to give up smoking is to give yourself permission to smoke. Guilt from the act of smoking will only prevent you from gaining satisfaction and urge you to have another cigarette that may ‘at last’ give you what you have been looking for. But you are not really looking for the short sensation of satisfaction that smoking provides but for the lost freedom to make your own choices in life. By trying to avoid lighting up, you also divest yourself of this potential satisfaction. The resistance to smoking creates powerful psychosomatic side effects. These are known as alienation symptoms. Symptoms may include depression, lack of interest in life, sleeplessness, fury, nausea, ravenous hunger, obesity, heart problems, lack of concentration, and a-tremble. However, these symptoms can only manifest if you believe that you have been lacking of your freedom to smoke.
Choosing To Smoke Less, But…
Don’t fight your desire to smoke. Contrary to general belief, to give up smoking you do not need to abolish your desire to smoke. You will start giving up the habit automatically once you choose not to follow your desire to smoke each time you have it (the desire to smoke). This will take the fuel through your subconscious, rebellious mind and stop you short of becoming a victim of external forces, situations or people. A master of yourself, you can choose to smoke or choose not to smoke. Keep your using tobacco with you as long as you feel you want to have this choice. It may even be a good idea to encourage your desire to smoke by keeping your cigarette pack in front of you, smelling it from time to time. Watch other people around you light up and breathe, imagining that you breathe deeply too. Do not count the days that pass without you smoking , nor look ahead in time either. You neither need to prove to yourself nor to anyone else that you can beat this addiction. In fact, you don’t want to beat it at all. You want to benefit from it. You are neither a better person if you quit, nor are you a worse person if you don’t. You are free to to give up smoking today and begin again tomorrow. You will generally have this choice, and you will always be very use your electronic cigarette away from being a smoker, just like the rest of us.
The selection of using and training your free will has to be manufactured in the ever-present moment, right now, and has to be done anew repeatedly many times each day. The longer the periods during which you actualize your choice not to smoke, the more quickly decreases your urge to smoke, becoming less intense each day. Whenever the desire to smoke returns, which is possible because the ghost of memory doesn’t just leave your subconscious overnight, you are once again motivated to generate a new choice. This time, however, your conscious mind finds it much easier to stick with its previous successful choice because of the freshly improved self-confidence and self-esteem. Challenges don’t exist in this program; only exercising your freedom of choice does. One way or the other, you are in charge.
The conscious retraining of your mind will benefit all of your life. It will restore your power of using your free will and eliminate the ‘victim’ within you. Because you have been told so many times in your life that you cannot do this or cannot do that, you begun to employ this belief dogma to take your addiction as being too difficult to give up. By reclaiming your power of making conscious choices you will be able to break the self-fulfilling ‘I can’t’ pattern in your life for good. This will become a great asset in every part of your life.